In Which We Discover the Secret to Social Success

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It’s getting hard to keep up with all the different social tools that are flying at us every day.  We constantly hear things like:

If you’re not on Pinterest you’re in big trouble.”

or

“Blogging is dead.”

It seems like people are putting a lot of effort into trying to figure out which tools they should use, and how they should use them.  What’s the best way to deal with all of this us? I’ve been repeatedly hit in the face with the answer to this recently from my network, which teaches me a lot.

So here is the secret to social success:

Connect with people.

Simple, isn’t it.  It doesn’t matter what tools you use – and if you spend too much time worrying about tools, you’ll forget to use them to do the one thing that matters – connecting.
Connecting Ideas is the Fundamental Creative Act in Innovation.  You have to connect ideas to ideas to innovate, and you have to connect people to your ideas to get them to spread.  It’s all about connection.

Earlier, I told you about the best social media strategy of all time:

Do awesome work.

That takes care of the connecting ideas to ideas part.  Then, to get them to spread, you need to connect the ideas to people.  And that means that you have to connect with people – that is the core purpose of all of these social tools.

Connections create value – that is the core message of Nilofer Merchant in her book 11 Rules for Creating Value in the #SocialEra. Here is one of my favourite quotes from the book:

We want innovation, but without experiencing failure. We want to embrace the new, but without risk. We want to act fast and fluid, but to maintain tight controls. We want to empower everyone, but retain decision rights for ourselves. We want to experiment, but we also want predictability. We want to be flexible to customer input, but remain ruthlessly efficient. We want to adapt, but we fear the death of familiarity.

This is why it’s hard to go from being an 800-pound gorilla to a herd of nimble gazelles; an organization goes from being a centralized institution that competes through overpowering strength and scale to a set of relationships or interrelationships. Gazelles thrive and win by how they share power with one another. And, as a result, they can act fast, fluid, and flexible. For organizations, this is key to winning in the marketplace.

As organisations, we win through connections. The same is true for people.

Here is Shane Mac from his book Stop With the BS:

All these apps, gadgets, buildings—everything for that matter—they don’t make me smile and think about how much I love what I do. The people I know do. It is the people and my relationships with them that really matter. Done. Simple as that. All we have in life are relationships, so we better start spending more time building new ones and rebuilding old ones. Build bridges, Re-build bridges, never Burn Bridges.

It’s the relationships that matter. Hugh MacLeod nails it in his latest book Freedom is Blogging in Your Underwear:

…all the internet is, as Doc Searls said, is a bunch of protocols that “allow us to get along.” Protocols allow us to talk to each other. The stuff in the middle, the stuff that separates us, the stuff that directly makes use of these protocols – hosting companies, web sites, blogging platforms, microblogging platforms, etc. – matter far less.

You’re on one end of the wire. Just think about who’s on the other end of the wire, and what you can do for them. Worry less about the wire. Worry less about the shiny objects in the middle.

Just worry about MAKING your own stuff, and the rest of the internet will look after itself.

So there is your two-step guide to social success.

Do awesome work.

and

Connect with people.

The problem is that while these steps might sound simple, they’re not.  They take a lot of effort.  That’s what makes the shiny new objects so seductive – they look like shortcuts.

Unfortunately, there are no shortcuts.  That’s why it’s still remarkable when you do awesome work and connect with people.

I know that I still have a long way to go myself.  But now that we’ve connected, maybe we can do some of this awesome work together.

 

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14 thoughts on “In Which We Discover the Secret to Social Success

  1. This is good stuff, Tim. At the end of the day, all these social tools are merely vehicles we can choose to get where we’re going. We can each only drive one at a time. They’re all useless to those who don’t know where they’re going or with a meaningful reason why.

    And there’s something to be said about connecting with people around the world add we fall further out of touch with people in or neighborhoods.

    Keep up the good work, Tim. I appreciate it.

      • No worries, mate. We’re all busy these days, but we all enjoy a little feedback from time to time. This one really spoke to me and, with all the publicity you’ve sent my way of late, it’s the least I could do.

        The quotes above on how we all want to be open and free and part of a truly global movement, yet retain full control and benefits for ourselves, personally, resonate. It’s a reminder that, whenever there is any doubt, there is no doubt. ;)

  2. Whilst modern social networking tools may make it easier to find new interesting people and interesting things….there are some connections we cherish regardless of the medium. Sometimes all you need is a cup of tea and some time to listen!

  3. Connect with people + do awesome work. That about sums it up. If we perform a study of prominently successful people over the centuries, we would find this is the recipe that was followed. If you remove one of the components you get interesting results:

    Connect with people – doing awesome work = socialite

    Do awesome work – connecting with people = Van Gogh

    That said, there are effective and ineffective ways to use the technologies. I am using twitter quite a bit these days, and it is not until recently that I worked out what I was doing wrong. Here’s what I’m up to now that I’ve changed my approach.

    1) Being eclectic, I have an expansive range of interests, but not all my interests mix well together. They mix well in my world, but not necessarily in ‘the’ world. To manage this, I have created multiple twitter accounts, each one following people relating to a distinct set of interests.

    2) Use one tool to aggregate it all. I am getting a lot of value out of Tweetbot on my iPhone, where I can switch between my accounts seamlessly and switch into the appropriate head space at the same time.

    3) “Connect with people” can be interpreted as something that proceeds from the inside out. However, it is more important to allow people to connect to you (from the outside in). When we think about it, this is what happens on twitter, for example. It’s when the tweets are consumed that the magic happens. Listen to what others have to say.

    4) Next, allow what others contribute to inspire creativity within that consequently results in generating “awesome work”. When you have created awesome work – share it! People are more than happy to listen.

    5) Finally, have fun doing it.

    • Thanks for the thoughtful comment Alain. Excellent points! At some point you’ll have to tell me more about the eclectic mix of interests.